Dating games men play and why
About a year ago I began dating a girl who was a horrible text responder. When I first asked her out, it took her three days to reply. When it comes to dating, no one wants to come off as too eager, but that seemed excessive.
As our relationship progressed, her text responses eventually came quicker.
The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away.
The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.
I call the beginning phase of dating “Dating Limbo” because no one knows yet what will become of the relationship.
Will the two of you date for a couple of months, and then become exclusive?
What is the purpose of the first ‘coffee shop’ date? He meets her, sweeps her off her feet, acts like he is totally enamoured by her – then doesn’t call.
A major factor which adds to the existent stress and confusion during this period is game-playing.
This article is inspired by a dating forum where a lengthy conversation caught my attention. Sometimes, the person takes ‘off the mask’ the very same day.
It amazed me how many people fear doing the wrong thing. Women play more mind games then men do, but men are better at it because most don’t recognize their behaviour as a mind game.
Dating Games Men Play 16 Deadly Dating Patterns You Need to Know Now Excerpted from Love in 90 Days By Diana Kirschner, Ph. Guy’s fears of being vulnerable, of being loved and loving, lead them to enact their dating games or what I call Men’s Deadly Dating Patterns (MDDPs).
How could he disappear after he was so totally into me? That’s why dating them can be so CONFUSING and FRUSTRATING.
Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. Men play out unconscious and conscious games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart.